Life Coaching for Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families
Many people grew up in unstable and dysfunctional homes. I was one of those adults and know first-hand what it's like to come from an alcoholic background. Some adults have shame because they come from alcoholic, abusive backgrounds. It wasn't your fault. Learn to move forward with your life and leave the past in the past
Many adult children of alcoholic or dysfunctional households have several characteristics in common. One is a feeling of isolation and uneasy around other people, especially authority figures. As a result many became people pleasers, losing their identities in the process. Personal criticism was seen as a threat.
Some adult children become alcoholics or marry them or both. Others adopt compulsive personalities such as workaholic to fulfill the need for abandonment. Life is viewed from the standpoint of victims. Adult children have an over developed sense of responsibility and many prefer to be concerned with others and not themselves. Guilty feelings take over when you trust yourself and you give into others.
Most are reactors and have dependent personalities and are terrified of abandonment. They'll do almost anything to hang onto a relationship even though it's toxic for them. Emotional abandonment is not an option. Many keep choosing insecure and abusive relationships because they mirror their childhood relationship with the dysfunctional and or alcoholic parents.
The symptoms of the dysfunctional or alcoholic family made you "co-victims" which means you take on the characteristics without taking a drink. You were taught to stuff your feelings down as children and keep them hidden as adults. Love is often confused with pity and you become the "rescuer archetype," choosing relationships where you save people. Choose to save yourself before you same others! You can do this through life coaching and get your life on the right track once and for all!
Many adult children of alcoholic or dysfunctional households have several characteristics in common. One is a feeling of isolation and uneasy around other people, especially authority figures. As a result many became people pleasers, losing their identities in the process. Personal criticism was seen as a threat.
Some adult children become alcoholics or marry them or both. Others adopt compulsive personalities such as workaholic to fulfill the need for abandonment. Life is viewed from the standpoint of victims. Adult children have an over developed sense of responsibility and many prefer to be concerned with others and not themselves. Guilty feelings take over when you trust yourself and you give into others.
Most are reactors and have dependent personalities and are terrified of abandonment. They'll do almost anything to hang onto a relationship even though it's toxic for them. Emotional abandonment is not an option. Many keep choosing insecure and abusive relationships because they mirror their childhood relationship with the dysfunctional and or alcoholic parents.
The symptoms of the dysfunctional or alcoholic family made you "co-victims" which means you take on the characteristics without taking a drink. You were taught to stuff your feelings down as children and keep them hidden as adults. Love is often confused with pity and you become the "rescuer archetype," choosing relationships where you save people. Choose to save yourself before you same others! You can do this through life coaching and get your life on the right track once and for all!
The Solution to Break the Cycle
Find the courage to purge all the hurts and fears that you've kept inside for a long time. Free yourself from the shame and blame that you've carried over from your childhood. Break free of the prison you created because of your childhood. Discover your inner child who is deserving of acceptance and love.
Begin to heal by moving out of isolation. The feelings and memories will resurface from time to time, but you can face them in order to move forward. Release yourself from the burdens you've been carrying around with you since childhood. Be your own loving, gentle parent. Treat yourself with love, respect, and humor.
Your parents raised you based on their childhood. When you're raised in an unhealthy environment, you tend to repeat the patterns. You can be the one to break the family cycle of dysfunction and become a leader for others. Take responsibility for your life today your tomorrow will be one of freedom, fun, wealth, health, and happiness.
Begin to heal by moving out of isolation. The feelings and memories will resurface from time to time, but you can face them in order to move forward. Release yourself from the burdens you've been carrying around with you since childhood. Be your own loving, gentle parent. Treat yourself with love, respect, and humor.
Your parents raised you based on their childhood. When you're raised in an unhealthy environment, you tend to repeat the patterns. You can be the one to break the family cycle of dysfunction and become a leader for others. Take responsibility for your life today your tomorrow will be one of freedom, fun, wealth, health, and happiness.
The Pledge to Break the Cycle
You'll experience a new freedom and happiness in your life. You will not forget the past, but you can take off the shackles that have held you down for many years because of it. Peace and happiness will be yours. You can be the one to break the cycle in your family and be an example to the younger members of your family. Feelings of uselessness, self-pity, and victimhood will disappear. You'll begin to "shift" on the inside which means your outside will begin to mirror the life you truly desire. You'll experience an increase in health because the burdens will be lifted and it will like you've lost 30 lbs. or more. Fear of people will leave you and financial insecurity will diminish. You'll intuitively know how to handle situations because the answers are inside of you. There's a higher power that is with you and loves you. You'll lean on it for support instead of being co-dependent on others.
1. Discover your real identity, love, and accept yourself.
2. Your self-esteem will increase.
3. You'll no longer fear authority figures because YOU are the only authority figure in your life.
4. You'll set boundaries and allow no one to cross them.
5. Intimate relationships will become clearer and more loving.
6. Facing abandonment issues will become easier; you'll be tolerant and overcome weaknesses and attract strength to you.
7. Playing and having fun will become a part of your life without feeling guilty.
8. You'll enjoy peace and harmony in your life.
9. You'll become more financially secure.
10. You'll begin to make healthier choices. Fear of failure and success will be a thing of the past.
11. You'll choose healthy relationships and intuitively know when a relationship isn't right for you.
12. Dysfunctional behaviors will dissolve over time.
13. You'll connect with your higher power to make the best decisions for you.
14. Your mind, body, and spirit will transform before your eyes.
1. Discover your real identity, love, and accept yourself.
2. Your self-esteem will increase.
3. You'll no longer fear authority figures because YOU are the only authority figure in your life.
4. You'll set boundaries and allow no one to cross them.
5. Intimate relationships will become clearer and more loving.
6. Facing abandonment issues will become easier; you'll be tolerant and overcome weaknesses and attract strength to you.
7. Playing and having fun will become a part of your life without feeling guilty.
8. You'll enjoy peace and harmony in your life.
9. You'll become more financially secure.
10. You'll begin to make healthier choices. Fear of failure and success will be a thing of the past.
11. You'll choose healthy relationships and intuitively know when a relationship isn't right for you.
12. Dysfunctional behaviors will dissolve over time.
13. You'll connect with your higher power to make the best decisions for you.
14. Your mind, body, and spirit will transform before your eyes.